For gay men , the social pressure associated with representations of their bodies is strong. The reason it's so funny is that it points out the paradox that you can be more or less fit in the same body. But it's also a bit sad. Because it's a bit true: when it comes to looks, expectations are not the same for a gay or straight man. I'm not sure I would have felt the same way if I had been straight. There are many accounts online of the experience of gay men and their body image.
Muscle bear men
Grizzly Men - The Growing Number of Bears in the Gay Scene - Nymag
Many men who do not have one or all of these characteristics define themselves as bears, making the term a very loose one. A chaser is generally an average-weight male who is attracted to stocky, chubby, fat or obese males. However, some of the latter also consider themselves as a chaser since it is quite common for either a stocky, chubby, fat or obese male to be attracted to the same. A man who is hairy, but is not large or stocky - typically thinner, or with lean muscle. Also typically identified by an energetically playful and flirtatious manner. Slimmer version of a Bear with little pockets of fat like love handles or a tiny gut, but not as lean as a Wolf. A younger or younger looking version of a Bear, typically but not always with a smaller frame.
Bear (gay culture)
And like any subculture, the bear community comes with its own distinct taxonomy—its minorities within a minority within a minority. Most bears are bears: big and often balding, with bushy beards and beefy arms; the look is distinctly blue-collar and unfussy. Some consider themselves cubs—usually younger, though that can also just mean smaller and younger-looking.
In gay culture, a bear is a larger and often hairier man who projects an image of rugged masculinity. However, in San Francisco during the s, any hairy man of whatever shape was referred to as a 'bear' until the term was appropriated by larger men, and other words had to be used to describe hairy other-shaped men such as otter slim , cub young bear on the way , or wolf hairy, medium build. The word 'manatee' describes a big, hairless man, i.